tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post1952223284198800989..comments2024-02-16T04:25:08.187-05:00Comments on Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybe: I'm Not Your HoneyStarting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06032033918798053005noreply@blogger.comBlogger46125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-5038558314103068972014-09-02T16:05:12.629-04:002014-09-02T16:05:12.629-04:00Hmm, lots to think on here. My ex-husband and I c...Hmm, lots to think on here. My ex-husband and I called each other honey or hon all the time, and I never fail to greet my daughter with an endearment when she calls - honey bun, angel, sweet pea, sugar plum, doll-face, boo, chica - you get the picture. I grew up in Louisiana and now live in SC, and that's just the way we roll, LOL! I try to avoid doing it to non-family, but sometimes slip up. I think it all depends on the circumstances... I'll tell you a Southernism I hate - calling a middle-aged woman "Miss (first name)". In my mind, I always hear Mammy in Gone With the Wind calling Scarlett "Miz Scah-litt". Uhg - HATE. And IMO, Ma'am should not be uttered by anyone over 12 or so - unless they are are addressing the Queen :)liparifamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15205794075118001139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-76691964432571805092013-10-29T13:06:10.981-04:002013-10-29T13:06:10.981-04:00Dear Arleen, well the truth will out---that is, I&...Dear Arleen, well the truth will out---that is, I'm someone who calls others "honey." My mom did so and I picked it up from her. Many people here on the western edge of Missouri did the same. I mostly use it now though when I'm talking to my nieces. I call them "honey." I've never realized that women might be offended by this. So thank you for giving me something to think about and possibly change! Peace.Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00612299013780771262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-82322501426066950402013-10-26T22:59:25.019-04:002013-10-26T22:59:25.019-04:00Oh, don't get me started! My mother's nam...Oh, don't get me started! My mother's name was Patricia, always called Pat. I phoned the hospital one day and was told by some snippety little bit 'Oh you mean Trisha". For Gs sake after 40 yrs you would think I would know my own mother's name. I worked in long term care and even before this incident always asked the residents what they would like to be called. Not using a patient's name is patronizing and lazy. I no longer eat at a cafe where the waitress persists in calling me "Hon" and pats my arm.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830177691014290662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-23093609156313242682013-10-26T03:30:47.655-04:002013-10-26T03:30:47.655-04:00I always thought people were being motherly when t...I always thought people were being motherly when they would say that. It made me feel younger. I'd never presume to call an older person "honey" or "dear." That's what you'd call a child. I'm pretty sure it must means different things to different people in different parts of the country. Don't let it get to you! Have a lovely weekend! :-)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07735576044552810103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-58618781914166266762013-10-25T22:27:44.220-04:002013-10-25T22:27:44.220-04:00Absolutely. No pronoun needed most times.Absolutely. No pronoun needed most times.Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032033918798053005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-61486464763758746542013-10-25T22:23:52.785-04:002013-10-25T22:23:52.785-04:00I am sure that people who use these terms do not m...I am sure that people who use these terms do not mean to be unkind. However, they are clueless as to how condescending it is to the people they are addressing in that manner and need to be educated.Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032033918798053005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-21295734226072600172013-10-25T20:57:41.843-04:002013-10-25T20:57:41.843-04:00Having lived in the South --Nashville -- I agree t...Having lived in the South --Nashville -- I agree the South is different. I'm with you. I prefer proper address and honey or sweetie is for those people who are close to me. In my last incarnation I directed a call center and it was tough to make staff understand that honey wasn't appropriate or even first names. I think I'm fighting a losing battle, but I'm happy to fight on. Buttercuphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03804094230127512943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-64154524857753993962013-10-25T02:34:34.992-04:002013-10-25T02:34:34.992-04:00omg, you cut her tip 3%? you rock! did you also le...omg, you cut her tip 3%? you rock! did you also leave a note on the back of the bill as to why? that's what i do when i'm not pleased with something.<br />i agree with "the broad". if it were a diner, it's just part of the character of the joint. like flo (polly holliday) at mel's diner. <br />ma'am is what ticks me off. i don't care how old i am, or how old i'll get, please don't call me ma'am.coffeedoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05573955830227163148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-33063274146898660112013-10-24T22:48:21.060-04:002013-10-24T22:48:21.060-04:00I love your recipes, Elizabeth and I will definite...I love your recipes, Elizabeth and I will definitely try those bars. I have printed them out and am waiting for an occasion to make them.Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032033918798053005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-144887333090193552013-10-24T22:46:00.400-04:002013-10-24T22:46:00.400-04:00The south is different and the way the people say ...The south is different and the way the people say it is not offending. I used to have dear friends from Georgia and Alabama who could tell someone to go to hell but with the charming way they said it, no one would be offended. Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032033918798053005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-42379699645642219572013-10-24T22:40:59.832-04:002013-10-24T22:40:59.832-04:00Yes, and maybe spilled it all over the plate she w...Yes, and maybe spilled it all over the plate she would have to carry back. However, that would be mean and I would not do that - but I would have enjoyed thinking about doing it.Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032033918798053005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-68953724346900288682013-10-24T22:37:52.636-04:002013-10-24T22:37:52.636-04:00Molly, honey, don't let it bother you. It mea...Molly, honey, don't let it bother you. It means that you look no older than 40.Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032033918798053005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-49804753898389928442013-10-24T22:36:21.979-04:002013-10-24T22:36:21.979-04:00When you are addressed as ma'am 10 times in a ...When you are addressed as ma'am 10 times in a conversation, it means that somebody is not happy. However, when that would happen to me, I would just consider him a jerk and move on. Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032033918798053005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-77109803090373106222013-10-24T22:33:53.495-04:002013-10-24T22:33:53.495-04:00I hated Ma'am when I was 40, now it is not so ...I hated Ma'am when I was 40, now it is not so bad. It beats Sweetie any day.Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032033918798053005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-88878265194300802852013-10-24T22:32:35.175-04:002013-10-24T22:32:35.175-04:00It was neither, and the bill was not cheap. It was neither, and the bill was not cheap. Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032033918798053005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-33409244576584843182013-10-24T22:29:56.541-04:002013-10-24T22:29:56.541-04:00But I felt guilty for doing so, VG, and she probab...But I felt guilty for doing so, VG, and she probably did not even notice that it was a smaller tip.Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032033918798053005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-17997701191095256242013-10-24T22:26:34.440-04:002013-10-24T22:26:34.440-04:00I think I might do that RPD. I think i would have...I think I might do that RPD. I think i would have not been as annoyed if she had called my husband "honey" also.Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032033918798053005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-60879012187667762522013-10-24T22:22:37.504-04:002013-10-24T22:22:37.504-04:00You are right, Rubye, they don't have a clue a...You are right, Rubye, they don't have a clue and mean no harm. However, only loved ones and children under the age of 5 should be called honey or sweetie. Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032033918798053005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-6890322805531972542013-10-24T22:18:58.371-04:002013-10-24T22:18:58.371-04:00As I get older, Julie, I have become more sensitiv...As I get older, Julie, I have become more sensitive. Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032033918798053005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-25839368995505588582013-10-24T22:17:45.837-04:002013-10-24T22:17:45.837-04:00Cherie is not so bad, as a matter of fact, it is k...Cherie is not so bad, as a matter of fact, it is kind of sexy and most women may smile at that.Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032033918798053005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-76258274516381178292013-10-24T22:16:13.472-04:002013-10-24T22:16:13.472-04:00Young people have no clue. In a wink of am eye, t...Young people have no clue. In a wink of am eye, they also, will know what it means to be spoken to in a condensing way.Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032033918798053005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-18951931428145391132013-10-24T18:56:55.795-04:002013-10-24T18:56:55.795-04:00To me, it depends on who,when and how it is said t...To me, it depends on who,when and how it is said to you that makes it a bad thing,but you can't lump it into being all bad. It's amazing to me how a few simple words can affect a person. Im sorry that those words have such power over you and make you feel so bad. Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01802969924402406684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-50186783261468911112013-10-24T17:37:10.840-04:002013-10-24T17:37:10.840-04:00Loving your post. In the south we are used to lit...Loving your post. In the south we are used to little endearments. It usually just means the person can't remember your name. Actually I know of at least two women who are called Honey by their grandchildren. And one Precious! It's the south... Hope you've had a great week! Bonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06285041048746416249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-49480342231616074442013-10-24T16:22:26.751-04:002013-10-24T16:22:26.751-04:00My ex used to call me "Honey" at times.....My ex used to call me "Honey" at times...but from him I accepted it. Anyone else try it...no way, Jose.<br /><br />You should have asked for waffles or pancakes with no honey....just maple syrup! ;)Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15835982875620956300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7470877934076705573.post-34878598321562436422013-10-24T13:10:15.506-04:002013-10-24T13:10:15.506-04:00I don't think it would bother me that much, bu...I don't think it would bother me that much, but then I can't remember anyone ever calling me 'honey', I think I'm getting an inferiority complex coming on.Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08604864977387798470noreply@blogger.com