Friday, February 14, 2014

All You Need Is Love

So much snow, so much anxiety, but all in all, I am doing OK.

When I was young, I was a hopeless romantic.
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I am no longer that starry-eyed idealist, but I am still sentimental. However, marriage is not easy and everyone has had their good and bad times.  Hormones take the place of thinking in early love, and after 46 years together, mine have gone the way of my high heels (which are in the back of my closet covered with dust).  But hey, I can still be wooed by chocolates, as nothing says love like  good candy.  My sweet tooth is still intact.

I told hubby to forget the flowers this year and because of the icy roads, we will forgo a dinner out. I have a frozen pizza in the fridge and that sounds just fine to me.  However, we will exchange funny cards and have a good laugh.  We will enjoy some fine wine, share a bag of M&Ms and then he will fall asleep in his old man's chair and I on the couch.  It is just comfy that way. 

There is a lot to be said for "comfy"










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  1. Your valentines celebration sounds like comfy fun. Is that a frog in the snow? It sure is cute.

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  2. Happy Valentine's Day, Arleen. I love your header picture - but the snow must be a bit of a challenge. Keep safe. Keep warm and keep loving.

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    1. The snow has been more than a challenge and it is not over yet. Two more storms predicted for the next three days. I see GB is not faring much better with all the rain. Mother Nature does not seem to be in a good mood.

      That little froggy has not been seen in a few weeks. He got buried in the snow three or four storms ago. We will find him in the spring.

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    1. Maybe too much. I think I will remove it from the post.

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    2. Nooo. You must leave it. That little amphibian is one determined creature. It deserves the credit.

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    3. Froggy stays, but depressing You Tube video has met the delete button.

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  4. Awww. I love success stories. Happy valentine's day to both of you, asleep there in front of the TV.

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  5. Happy Valentines Day. And thank you, I think, for the tear jerker. Bette Midler is incomparable.

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    1. Tear jerker has been eliminated. I love the song, but it is rather a downer now that I think about it more.

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  6. We just had lunch out, too old for late nights in town. There is much to be said for comfy.

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  7. Breakfast out is comfy also - as long as it's not too early.

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  8. We took hubby's mom out to lunch. She is 87, witty, and with it. Had a great time.
    Love should add 'comfy' to the list.

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    1. I bet she had a wonderful time also. I hope the food was good.

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  9. What could be better than pizza and M&M's? I agree that there is a lot to be said for being "comfy!" An added bonus would include spending the day in your robe and pajamas! Happy Valentine's Day Arleen!

    Julie

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  10. For me it has been 47 years and counting. After that amount of time "comfy," and laughing together, and chocolate sounds like a great celebration to me!! :)

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    1. We are competitive and he who buys the funniest card wins. So far, he is way ahead of me. He is great at finding the best laugh.

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  11. A reassuring post to those of us who have simplified this holiday into a few phone calls, wine, cheese and a favorite dvd. My compliments to you both!

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    1. Nothing has to be a big deal anymore, Geo, but they can still be pleasant.

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  12. My wife flew to London 2 days ago, so wasn't here to pamper me with roses and chocks. So I bought her a Peach Tree, and Emailed her a picture of it. She seemed quite happy!

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    1. Nothing says lovin' like a peach cobbler. What a wonderful gift for Lady M. It is a gift that keeps on giving.

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  13. Comfy is good, Arleen. I hope you both enjoyed your Valentine's Day... :)

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    1. It was one of the few days without a snowstorm, and the sun actually came out. It was a very good day.

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  14. After so many years together, "comfy" = love; sounds like the perfect Valentine's Day to me. What a great way to spend the day and evening together. Hope it was all you anticipated.

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    1. We went according to plan and he was asleep by 8:30, but I made it to 11pm. I was proud of myself.

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  15. It sounds just like the kind of Valentine's Day my husband and I often have. In fact, pretty much like every evening we have. Nothing could be sweeter!

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  16. Arleen, love and comfiness are great warmers!

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  17. I am glad you had a nice Valentine's Day - sorry I am so late! Sandie

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  18. Fine wine, pizza and funny cards after 46 years is great. Some relationships last 10 minutes, especially on Valentines Day.

    OK, he's gonna fall asleep in his old man's chair, but next time surprise him when he wakes. Dig deep for those high heels, get the stockings out, paint the face and sort the hair and watch his reaction.... Valentines would never be the same again, ha ha ha ha.

    Congrats on being married for so long. It's a great achievement.

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    1. As long as there is fine wine and a good laugh. Both those things have gotten me through these years.

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  19. Comfy sounds like the perfect kind of love to me.
    You two have attained perfection!

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    1. Not anywhere near that. Sometimes it's comfy and other times it The War of the Roses (without the swinging from the chandelier).

      Laura, it was so good to see "Austan" in my comments. I hope you are doing OK with all this snow.

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  20. There is a lot to be said for comfy. Whether in terms of furniture or relationships. My wife and I will be 45 years married this year; I understand comfy, at least a bit.

    Blessings and Bear hugs!

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  21. We usually we go out for a meal the day before or after Valentine's; it's so much easier to get a table! We do try to keep romance alive but some times the brain writes a cheque/check that the body is reluctant to cash......
    CLICK HERE for Bazza’s Blog ‘To Discover Ice’

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    1. We had snow the day before and the day after, so that was not an option. I hope you and your wife enjoyed your meal.

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  22. Sounds perfect to me. It's the little things huh? X

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  23. Forty-six years? That is wonderful and quite and accomplishment in this day and age. I think that as long as you are both happy that is all that matters.

    I am happy to hear that you made the cookies, and enjoyed them.

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    1. Elizabeth, those cookies were easy to make and even easier to eat. I notice that you don't list the calorie content of your recipes. Thank you for doing that.

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  24. Yes, there IS a lot to be said about comfy. We went out for lunch, but chose to skip dinner out, too, and instead, stayed home and enjoyed a mess of snow crab legs and champagne. While wearing our softies...

    Life is good.

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    1. Susan, love is cooking and sharing snow crabs. I wish you had invited us.

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  25. Dear Arleen, never having experienced romantic love or married love, I can still understand what you are saying in this post about love that spans many years and changes, ebbs and flows. And to come to "comfy" seems to me to be a fine place for I always look forward in new friendships to that time when the two of us will be comfortable enough to let time pass in a car or at the restaurant without talking. To be comfortable in silence. That's a gift I think. Peace.

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    1. I find the best comfort with someone who understands me, and that often is a friend.

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  26. Thanks for the comment on The Medicare Mom. Did you ever play with scraps of lumber? I did and they were free. 50 yrs with hubby number 1. We took the kids to eat Mexican food, then we came home and fell asleep. Comfy is good.

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    1. Mexican food.... I love it, but doesn't it have a way of keeping you up all night.

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  27. Hi Arleen,

    This is a heart warming post, my human friend. I know my human would give anything for that comfy feeling. Enduring love is a wondrous thing.

    Pawsitive wishes,

    Penny the Jack Russell dog and modest internet superstar!

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  28. Life is good at any age, as long as there are chocolates!

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    1. Milk chocolates, dark chocolates, German chocolates, any chocolates at all.

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  29. There IS a lot to be said for "comfy." I'm glad you had a nice -- and comfy -- time. :)

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    1. It was comfy, and I ate too much chocolate. I went to sleep and was awake two hours later.

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  30. Comfy does it for me too (although I still fall for a bit of low-key wooing!). My high heels are now on their way to the local vintage shop...

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  31. Amen to that! I love comfy. Okay...is that a real picture up top? Is that a frog? That is awesome! Hang in there with the snow. MN is getting 10 more inches today. Ugh...not sure where we are going to put it!

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    1. TracyJo, that poor cement frog has been buried beneath two feet of snow for the past month. I hope to see him soon.

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  32. Hello Arleen,

    I know just what you mean here but cannot help thinking that given half a chance and a way out of the front door you will be reaching for the high heels and partying with the best of them.

    Whatever, it is so lovely that after all these years you can still be the best of friends with your husband. That is so wonderful and a true Valentine gift.

    Thank you so much for your kind words on our returning blogpost. So beautifully put.......'we can choose how we colour our lives'....and you, dearest Arleen add a vibrancy and colour to your readers' lives in ways which you might never dream of. We thank you for that!

    Hoping you are warm and well J and L xxx

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    1. Thank you, Jane and Lance for you VERY KIND words. They touch me so. It has been a very hard winter here, and yes, given the opportunity to go out and celebrate anything I would, but the icy roads are keeping me inside.

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  33. So true! Your words remind me of that old quote... ‘Marriage is the longing for the deep, deep peace of the double bed after the hurly-burly of the chaise longue.’ Hope winter loosens its grip for you soon :-) JJ


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    1. Double bed - never, king bed - works, separate beds - a good night's sleep.

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