Laughing through the changes and accepting what life has for me after retirement. My elevator might be going down, but I plan to get off on every floor, even if it's just for plumbing supplies.
Sunday, June 21, 2015
An Old Woman's Thoughts
Tired but OK.
Love is easy, hate is hard. Why would one want to do what's difficult?
Good question --difficult to answer. In the film "Casablanca", I believe it was best expressed in a scene that went (approximately):
Ugarte:"You hate me, don't you Rick?"
Rick Blaine: "I suppose I would hate you if I gave you any thought."
Have always loved that line and associated it with the hardship and even wickedness of hate. It's something we allow ourselves to do if we're not careful of our rational minds.
I like to think love is our more natural way of being. Our default setting, if you will. But that doesn't always make it the easiest. Some years ago, a friend's parents took in a troubled teenager as a foster child. That child ended up stabbing the mother to death, and shortly thereafter, our friend was able to forgive and love the teenager. Her parents had raised her to "love her neighbor," and that's exactly what she did, no matter how difficult it was.
Thank you so much for your kind and supportive words. Today was my last day of my school's summer program. I am looking forward to relaxing and finding a quiet routine. Hugs! Bonnie
I agree that it takes far more energy to hate or be angry ... yet I find myself a lot angrier and less tolerant of others' bad behavior as I get older. I love your header - so beautiful. And I enjoyed feeding the fish in your footer! If they look a lot fatter now, you can blame me. Have a lovely weekend! :)
your photo on your header is magnificent!....very very peaceful! I wish I'd known y'all were in town recently......we could've had a meet up and had lunch or walked the Battery or something! How is your summer going?
For some people I think hate becomes a habit and their default setting. Early training?
ReplyDeleteSad and bad.
What an empty life one must have to embrace hate and negativity.
DeleteGood question --difficult to answer. In the film "Casablanca", I believe it was best expressed in a scene that went (approximately):
ReplyDeleteUgarte:"You hate me, don't you Rick?"
Rick Blaine: "I suppose I would hate you if I gave you any thought."
Have always loved that line and associated it with the hardship and even wickedness of hate. It's something we allow ourselves to do if we're not careful of our rational minds.
I love your response, Geo.
DeleteThank you so much for your kind words about Charleston. Appreciate that!
ReplyDeleteI love your beautiful city.
DeleteBeautiful words. Many people try to do the hard things than the soft one...
ReplyDeleteBut why?
DeleteFor most, love is easy and hate is hard. For some though, love is hard and hate is easy.
ReplyDeleteIt might have to do with them not being taught how to love.
DeleteHatred is most destructive to the person who hates -- it may be a human emotion but ends up costing us our humanity...
ReplyDeleteWe have seen that time and time again.
DeleteExcellent question, with probably as many answers as there are people. What a strange and puzzling world we live in.
ReplyDeleteYou are right, Karen.
DeleteExcellent. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteThank YOU!
DeleteHappy people usually lead healthier lives in the long run.
ReplyDeleteJulie
Hi Arleen,
ReplyDeleteA thoughtful point you make. Those that would hate may find that love is a sign of weakness. That's very sad.
Gary
Why is it so difficult to learn this truth, I wonder.
ReplyDeleteHate eats away at the heart and can only shorten one's life. Love, on the other hand brings you a bottomless pit of well-being!
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I like to think love is our more natural way of being. Our default setting, if you will. But that doesn't always make it the easiest. Some years ago, a friend's parents took in a troubled teenager as a foster child. That child ended up stabbing the mother to death, and shortly thereafter, our friend was able to forgive and love the teenager. Her parents had raised her to "love her neighbor," and that's exactly what she did, no matter how difficult it was.
ReplyDeleteYes, yes, and yes.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for your kind and supportive words. Today was my last day of my school's summer program. I am looking forward to relaxing and finding a quiet routine. Hugs! Bonnie
As the song goes, "You've Got to Be Carefully Taught"...
ReplyDeleteHappy july 4th!!
ReplyDeleteA very pithy insight to share in this troubled world. I came to you from Gardening with Geo.
ReplyDeleteOh, I love your masthead picture! I wish I was there!
ReplyDeleteI agree that it takes far more energy to hate or be angry ... yet I find myself a lot angrier and less tolerant of others' bad behavior as I get older. I love your header - so beautiful. And I enjoyed feeding the fish in your footer! If they look a lot fatter now, you can blame me. Have a lovely weekend! :)
ReplyDeleteyour photo on your header is magnificent!....very very peaceful! I wish I'd known y'all were in town recently......we could've had a meet up and had lunch or walked the Battery or something! How is your summer going?
ReplyDeleteLove your header photo. And as far as the question goes.....
ReplyDeleteHope you are doing well, my Dear!
ReplyDeleteHugs,
Anne